Friday, January 14, 2011

Career vs. Career

So as many of you know I plan to make the big move from Massachusetts to Europe, (or wherever Jordan decides to play), next year and for those of you readers who don't know me or have not read my previous posts, this will be my first year taking the plunge and actually living as a hockey wife.  Now the reason I bring this up is because I ALWAYS get asked, "well what are you going to do over there?" or "what about your job?"  I definitely feel comfortable with the first question because I tend to keep myself occupied with little projects, working out, and blogging of course :o).  But I have to say I can never really give someone a confident answer when the "job" question comes up.


I have been working since I was 15 (definitely not going to tell you the embarrassing places I worked my first couple of years haha) and was brought up valuing hard work and  the ability to support yourself.  I have never been one of those girls to ask "mommy" or "daddy"(or Jordan for that matter), for spending money.  Sure I've had to ask for help now and then for student loan bills and things of that nature (really regretting going to a 45,000/year private College these days haha) but never to go buy myself a new purse or really great pair of shoes.  Luckily I have had jobs that were able to pay the bills and support my shopping habit simultaneously.


For the past 2+ years I have been working for a Nationally recognized company and have learned what it takes to be a successful business woman.  I feel like I have grown  into my position and I'm ready to move to the next level and see what kind of challenges I can face and succeed at.  The only problem is, I'M LEAVING in 7 months to follow my future husband's hockey career.  Is it really justifiable to sacrifice one career for another?  I often find myself struggling with this question and sometimes it makes me want to laugh.  Sometimes it makes me want to cry.  Sometimes I just get numb from thinking about too much and I become brain-dead to the rest of the world. (You'll know when I am having these types of days haha).  Do any of you other hockey wives out there feel this same way? 


It's not that I am scared of the unknown, it's more about my own personal progression.  On one hand I feel like I have really grown into myself since college and most of that has to do with me becoming a confident working professional.  On the other hand I feel like I have been missing a piece of myself because it lies with Jordan across the country/world, where ever he may be.  I guess I will just have to keep three very important things in mind:


1. Life is about Sacrifice
2. Cherish the ones you love because they may be gone tomorrow
3. I have the REST OF MY LIFE to work!


I'm really enjoying # 3 and it gives me a serious sense of comfort.  So now I will look forward to the future and enjoy the ride while I can because hockey will not be there forever.  Hopefully when the time comes to hang up his skates Jordan (and the rest of the hockey guys out there for that matter) will remember the sacrifice their women have had to make to support their career.


Ok, obviously I am neither of these woman and nor do I think hockey wives dress in the underwear and their husbands equipment haha, but you get the idea.


Have a great weekend everyone!!!

5 comments:

  1. So true about the fact that you got the rest of your life to work...cause our boys careers doesnt last as long as ours and its a real opportunity for you to live and see other countries so you Go girl;)

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  2. As you know, I am in the exact same position as you right now only instead of 7 months, I have had just over 72 hours to make a decision...I really wish I had more time.
    Everything you have said I feel! I feel like I am losing part of who I am and part of my identity...but on the flip side, I know my career will continue when my fiance hangs up his skates...until then I have decided I am going to make the sacrifice to fulfil his dreams and aspirations.
    I'm with Mrs K on this...I think we need to embrace the opportunities this will open up for us by moving with our men, seeing new places, learning new languages, learning about new traditions and cultures...I talk a good talk...I just wish I could convince my mind fully that giving up my career for a while isn't such a bad idea. haha.

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  3. Ps..I'm not sure if I have some how managed to remove you from my "followers" by mistake...if I have please feel free to re-add me.

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  4. I like #3 too. I worked hard all through school so that I would be able to go onto law school and make my dreams a reality. Meeting my husband and having Linden put everything on hold, and there are times I struggle with that, but I just have to remind myself that life is short. When we walk away from the hockey world, we will never have jobs that allow us to spend this kind of time together or travel together the way we do. We are all very blessed. And you do have the rest of your life to work.

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  5. Thanks girls..very encouraging comments!!!

    And WOW Hockey Wife...that takes A LOT of guts to walk away from law school. But I truley belive everything happens for a reason and that we are all LUCKY to have opportunities thrown our way that most people don't get to experience!

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